Sunday, March 23, 2014

Stop It If You Can!!!

How to deal with talkative people?! :P
we come across many different types of people each day. Some are happy, some are sad, some are highly energetic while some others are gloomy.The most difficult people to deal with are the highly talkative ones. They can keep you stuck at your seat for minutes and can keep you there all day long if you let them. Their monologue starts from one silly thing and jumps to several other topics around the globe. All the useless things better not spoken about splash through their mouth continuously. You wonder how much energy they have and whether the reservoirs of stupid things in their brains ever get depleted. You can hear the stuff in the beginning for a few minutes until it gets worse and your ears just cant tolerate anymore. A few minutes down the line, you start repenting your very existence over there and hate circumstances that took you there :). Things get even worse when you just don't have any idea how to somehow direct the discussion towards much coveted end.You don't have any other alternative than to agree to what they say or just pretend to do so. Of course you know what they are speaking and it does not matter to you whatsoever, but the very link is like a high speed internet connection, unstoppable and unfaltering. There is no term called buffering. Streaming is real time and you just don't get any room in between their sentences(even words!) that you could avail of to stop the discussion. You know that interrupting and directly saying that you have some place to reach on time.. or, some important work to do.. might hurt them. So, your mind starts thinking other valid reasons to find a way out of the situation. you feel pitiful about your inability to say 'no' directly, and wonder how strong you have become, to be able to hear boring, monotonous stuff for such a long period of time.


                    Last week, i accidentally(right word indeed!) came across one of my friends in front of a snacks' center adjoining MIT College. I finished my snacks within 10 minutes or so, and paid for it. A known voice fell across my ears. I turned back to see who she was and was happy to talk to her after two months.(The last time i talked to her was on phone, when my battery died while doing so). Without even asking me(much) how i was and what i am currently doing, she started to tell about her exams, papers, college, routine, subjects, friends, her aim in life, a heated conversation between one of her friends and her husband, .... to almost everything in the universe that had nothing to do with me howsoever! I tried and tried hard to tolerate and even felt good to talk to her for a few minutes until i literally started wondering what i really was doing over there.Almost 2 hours of worthless one sided conversation, and i had gone through one of the richest experiences life had to offer me. The experience that would make my next blog post!(positive side of the coin). She ordered snacks for herself and kept eating stuff for about an hour! I observed many people come there, have snacks and leave, but she showed no signs of stopping the conversation. The shopkeeper wondered how much she talks, how less she listens and he surely must have appreciated my tolerance :P . I was pretty confident at the beginning that i would somehow be successful at stopping her speak and leave for my friend's home, but after a while, i realized the vanity. All my attempts to stop her monologue were futile! When i had no clue what to do, and escape from there somehow, it started raining! I thanked God to have listened to my wishes and i now had a valid excuse to escape from that seemingly endless conversation! :P :)

"Count Your Blessings!"

    Just came across a quote over the internet that said, "Count Your Blessings". We often come across such quotes while reading. However, reading quotes and understanding them are two different things altogether.We are living in the twenty first century world. In this era of golden opportunities, we shouldn't be whining about useless things. "Man's reach cannot exceed his faith." If we believe we can move a mountain, we can. We should believe in ourselves and our ability to do be unstoppable. Ayn Rand in Atlas Shrugged says, "Do Not Lose Your Knowledge That Man's Proper Estate Is An Upright Posture, An Intransigent Mind, And A Step That Travels Unlimited Roads." Every cell in our body is active and full of vibrant energy. Every decision that we make, should be a consequence of thoughtful observation. We need to understand the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Isn't it foolish to focus all our mental energies and stress our brain to think about things that are of no use to us at all. Even 1 percent improvisation in the way we think and act can bring about remarkable changes in our lives. Imagine what can happen if we start thinking positively and start taking good decisions on a daily basis!

A Utopian World Order

Imagine the day when you open a newspaper and do not find a single post about that million dollars' financial fraud, that heinous murder, or that war on the borderline between once friendly nations. This idea and blog post is inspired by a rather obsolete conception of a perfect world. The most pervasive of all criminal activities, the bitter causes of dreaded enmity between multiple nations, and the most obnoxious of the thoughts that come into every single person's mind, if wiped out, can eventually build a foundation for an Utopian world order.
                     Money is believed to be the root cause of all evil activities. Some people believe that it is the lack of money that causes all problems. There have been great clashes between the capitalist and socialist ideologies over the thought of distribution of wealth.Capitalists believe that economy should be driven by profit, whereas socialists have a belief in the notion that everyone should get equal opportunities to earn money. Some thinkers have encapsulated a new thought- money(the cause of all pervasive greed) should no more be used as a means of exchange and the age old barter system be brought into action. Moving forward towards a new world order, mankind should be directed to see the eternal things in life. Food, clothing, shelter and love are four basic needs of man. It is greed to amass more wealth and the wicked intentions to overpower others that have caused so much of hatred and disequilibrium in the world.If economies of all the nations of the world give a serious thought over money, we can surely find a way to a much better world!
                    If we think about the reason behind the criminal activities that have been causing so much of nuisance around us, we see that it is actually due to the disharmony in the ways of thinking. No one is born as a criminal. But the incidents around a person that he sees and experiences while he grows up, makes him a criminal. The movies that one sees, the stories that one hears make so much impact on him that they actually sort of develop that mindset. In order to make our society a better place to live in, we need to be aware of the things that we let into our minds. Media is one of the greatest inventions that has positively changed the world. However, strict censor rules need to be made in order to stop portraying so much of violence(at least to prevent young people from watching it). Movies are reflections of real life, and a real life in turn is most often shaped my the things that one sees in movies and other forms of entertainment. Out of the most probable reasons why a person perpetrates crime, the most obvious is 'poverty'. Money is the most respected entity in the world today. Money, despite of being a non living entity 'rules' the world in true sense of the word. Poverty is a vicious circle. A person with a family, with 4 people depending upon him for survival would require some source of income to earn money and feed his family. If he fails to grab the means of livelihood, what option will he have? Letting his family starve to death? Guys, we are living in a highly competitive world. There are hell lot of fights going on out there. Just because we are happy and leading good lives, doesn't mean the world around us is happy too. It is like closing one's own eyes and thinking, 'no body is seeing me!'. Humanity is not just about living a good life oneself. But it is actually about doing one's bit to make world a better place for not so fortunate others. Giving poor children opportunities to learn and provide them means of education is a need of an hour today.
                  What if countries had no boundaries! Imagine Laissez Faire not just as a concept in capitalist economy, but as something that can actually be applied across boundaries as well. The unbelievable amount of money every nation spends on ammunition can be better utilized for developing the standard of living for its citizens. I mean, these wars, and all the bloodshed around should stop now, right? If there would be no wars, people wouldn't die every day for stupid reasons. The idea of world with no boundaries is an abstract idea though and isn't foolproof.

                 Peace is a solution to all problems. If each one of us makes an attempt to wipe the traces of all the divisive factors that have been set upon us, we can acknowledge that we are human beings, and humanity is our only religion. A person living in a particular colony of a city has so many distinct identities. The prejudices about these identities and false notions of belongings lead to several virtual divisive factors. He would not connect easily with the person in another continent, country, state,
city, or colony, or the one who belongs to other religion, caste, or creed, other than his own. A Utopian society wouldn't have these divisive factors that differentiate one person from the other.Different country, religion,race, eating habit(vegetarian or non vegetarian), wouldn't matter whatsoever. There would be a perfect harmony between all beings in the universe ,and perfect harmony between all the nationalities as well. This harmony can originate only from the acknowledgement of divine attachment to the almighty. Peace and tranquility are the solutions to all the the problems in the world. Inner peace will ultimately lead to outer peace. M. K. Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see". One must feel the poise within first. Its not a perfect world, and probably never can be one. However, our small efforts to develop ourselves, our family, and needy people around us can not only bring goodness to our own spirit, but also spread the spirit of goodwill to the yet unreachable corners of the universe. Friends, lets purify ourselves to feel the inner peace and connect to the celestial source of unlimited happiness! That's the Utopian island we've always been dreaming about!